Silicon valley

There are lots of men with Asperger's out here in engineer heaven. And a lot of failed marriages, too. My neighbor just divorced from her husband with Asperger's. He walked out one day. I think he became completely stressed out by having two teenage sons, including one with Asperger's. You can't imagine the screaming that we used to hear coming from their house. Another friend just emailed me to say her husband and son have Asperger's and she finally understands why their marriage has been so difficult. Adding on a child who can't communicate magnifies the Asperger's-marriage challenge many fold.

I have seen 5 therapists--including one couples counselor--through the course of my marriage, All but the therapist I'm seeing now has told me, "we see a lot or relationships like this in the Bay area. Yours is extreme. Get divorced". The last has said, "I can see you've made up your mind not to get divorced. So lets see what I can do to help you thrive as much as possible". I'm managing, and even enjoying marriage from time to time. But love is hard to muster.