The good and the bad

Here are some of the good things about being married to my Asperger's husband.

1. He can fix anything
2. He keeps life interesting (never a dull moment)
3. He is very smart and his opinions are unique, often thought-provokingly so
4. His routines are predictable; he will not disappear
5. He is faithful sexually
6. He is easy to shop for since he only wears a restricted number of things
7. He is personally quite clean and neat
8. He can be extremely funny, especially in what he writes
   

Here are bad things about being married to my Asperger's husband:

1. He cannot tolerate any "disturbance in the force". Any change from routine causes anxiety and anger towards my daughter and me. Example: when my daughter had a fever and missed school, he stopped speaking for 2 days.
   
2. He has no empathy. Example: when I burned my finger while cooking, he screamed at me for interrupting his long monologue on nuclear bomb production. He will not be interrupted.
   
3. He cannot tolerate noise, including happy laughter and playfulness of children.
4. He does not perceive how his negative moods affect others. He is a dementor, sucking joy out of the room when he is unhappy.
   
5. He can't hold a job because he is hypercritical and intolerant of everyone else's incompetence.
6. He finds little joy in our daughter; he makes her feel more like a burden than a gift.
7. He cannot find happiness in other people's successes.
8. He has focussed interests that he will talk about endlessly and loudly without noticing the glazing over of people's eyes.
9. He is miserly, at least with respect to the family ( he can spend money on himself). He doesn't mind spending "my" money.
10. He can NEVER apologize (everything is always someone else's fault) and almost never gives a spontaneous hug or says "I love you".
    

Sounds bad on balance, no?